In a lot of our average, everyday lives, there's going to be nothing worse than wanting something better for ourselves. I originally thought to say that it was the worst thing, period, but that kind of hyperbole is quickly overridden by things like natural disasters and personal tragedies. In truthfulness though, wanting better is really, really bad.
Because wanting something like that, something revolutionary, hurts. It feels bad to know that you're not currently what you should be or where you should be, or probably the most bad, who you should be.
In responding to these moments, there's a lot we can learn about ourselves. A lot we should learn. A lot we might not want to know.
Because sometimes when we want something better, we wish. We don't close our eyes and we don't count to ten, but we sit back and desire and long.
And that's all we do. We hope that we can just will it into the world and that one day it'll all be there right where we want it. Everything will fall into place if we just tell ourselves it will. See also: the power of positive thinking.
Sometimes when we want more, we wait. Waiting is a lot like wishing, because we believe that it'll come around to us. Whatever we want is a gift granted by the world and it'll all come in due time. Hey, we aren't the center of the universe, right, so how can we be expected to make that kind of thing happen?
When we wait, we aren't even trying to make the thing happen. We're losing ourselves in TV marathons and video games until the moment that it's time to take off our warm-ups and really get into the game.
To be honest, from what I've seen, these methods can work. People get their "big breaks" all the time. They weren't expecting it, and everything they wanted (or didn't even know they wanted) falls into their lap.
You see reports about it on the news. You read inspirational stories in magazines. "It could happen to you!"
But what we need to think about more is getting ourselves ready. Warming up before we're thrust into the game.
That's why, I think instead of wishing or waiting, you should be working. Working is wishing and waiting with legs. It's your stretches and calisthenics before the coach calls you from the bench. It's proving that everything you want is everything you deserve.
Because the other part of the big breaks, the part you don't see on those news reports and inspirational magazine stories, is what comes after. Maybe that one novel is the only novel an author ever gets written. Maybe a chart-topping song is the only one anyone will ever hear.
And maybe, after that big break, there will be a big breakdown. Because wishing and waiting prepare you for a moment. They don't prepare you for a life. They don't ready you for a career. They're for a blip, not the long haul.
If we really want something, something big and beautiful and scary, we should be ready. Ready just doesn't happen.