The Desire to Desire

We all have a problem. Let's admit it right here and right now, like a giant Internet-based support group. Stand up right now, hold your hand over your heart and pledge your allegiance to the disturbed human race. Because we, as a people, want to want things.

Crazy, right? Let's continue.

We all have these desires for something, anything, that will make our life better. It could be a new job, a new place, a new boyfriend, or a new car. It doesn't matter what it is. It only matters that we want it.

And that counts even after we get it. Once we have it, we're ready to start wanting something else. Not just ready, actually, we're already doing it. We have our new boyfriend, but if only he were a little taller and his hair didn't fall quite that way. We're finally at home, but it doesn't feel like it should have.

So we start wanting all over again. The cycle repeats ad nauseum.

As is with most of my posts, there's a catch. We're supposed to want this sort of stuff. As discussed before, if we're happy with where we are, we're not getting any better.

We just can't let this desire for more more more ruin our happiness. What we have is good, even if it's not as good as what we always dreamed. If you find all of your dreams coming true, I'd say it's time to start dreaming a little bigger.

And that doesn't even begin to tap into a deeper psychological conundrum - the one that actually spawned the idea for this post - our desire to desire. When we find ourself wanting more, we often know that the more will not satisfy us, but we want anyway. We want to want whatever it is we don't have. We're attracted to the idea of wanting more.

Isn't it a wonder any of us manage to find more than a moment's peace?