I'm going to ask a question this time, just because I want a wide group of responders for something that's been on my mind lately. I mean no offense to those that I've disagreed with it about (okay, so that's just a nice way of saying my girlfriend); I really just want to know what the best answer is. When you're in a relationship, is it appropriate for you to spend one-on-one time with a member of the opposite sex who isn't your significant other?
Let's look at the sides.
The "yea" side says that it doesn't matter as long as trust is involved. Friends are friends and you should be able to keep your friends when you're in a relationship. As long as physical intimacy is completely avoided, there's nothing to worry about.
The "nay" side says that one-on-one time with members of the opposite gender should be reserved only for the significant other. Even with trust, what is it conveying that you have to spend alone time with someone you aren't dating? What does it say to the person you're spending the time with? What does it say to people looking at the relationship from the outside? And most importantly, what does it say to your significant other?
Let's look at those questions a little more. I don't want to give more weight to one side of the argument, but I think it's worth exploring.
Personal one-on-one time involves intimacy. Always. You don't spend time with someone alone that you don't feel close to. Granted, it's usually not physical and so usually not an outright problem, but is having that close of a connection to a person you're not dating healthy?
Can it interfere with your relationship? Even if you don't think it will, couldn't it?
The yeas have some very valid points, but the nays have some very valid doubts. Maybe doubts aren't a reason to give up some alone time, but maybe they are. Maybe it's just an issue of respect. Maybe it's not an issue at all.
I really don't have a right answer for this. I know how I feel about it, but I'm not going to push that your way.
What I want to know is how you feel. Is it appropriate or not?