These are the strangest four words that I find people saying to me. Not strange because it isn't good advice, because it is. It's great advice. Probably the ideal way to approach things.
Strange because I have no idea how to follow through with it.
When someone tells me to not worry and I continue to worry, it's not because I want to. It's because I don't know where to find that switch to stop thinking about something. It doesn't feel like I have a choice in the matter.
I find myself leaning towards the "you have a choice here" side of the argument when it comes to feelings and actions. Yet I apparently concede this one to fate. I'm a hopeless cause in just this issue.
It's a stupid way to think about things. Because I see other people and how they don't seem to be consumed by worry and that makes me wonder if it's just me that can seem to shake this thing.
Which is just another way of saying I worry that I'm the only one who's worrying.
It's no way to live.
So let's say this is something I could take into my own hands and solve? How do we think it'd happen?
If I were to guess, I'd bet it doesn't have anything to do with forcing bad thoughts out. Trying to not think about something is just going to make you think about it more. Go ahead, try not to focus on that one part of your body that you'd change just ever-so-slightly. It'll eat at you.
Instead, maybe the answer is to replace it with something good. If you don't love the way you're shaped, maybe somebody else does. Maybe there's another part of you that you could love.
And maybe if we're trying to not worry about the future, we find something we can hope for.
And hope for it with all of the energy we can muster.