I wouldn’t be surprised if, at this point, no one really remembers this blog exists. Being honest with myself, most days I can’t say that I do. Lately, I have a thousand things to do and it feels like only five minutes a day to do them.

I’ve written a lot since we last talked, but I also missed just as many days of writing. I’ve started projects and thrown them away. I have a new job, a new house, and had to give away one of my sweet dogs because she fought with the others. The Twitch stream I told you about last time has grown - I have just over 1,000 followers now - and I don’t plan on stopping anytime soon.

What I’m saying is, there’s a lot I could probably be saying and I haven’t been saying it. It took a comment from a kindly reader (thanks Robert!) to pull me back. I don’t know if I have the right things to say, but hey, I’ve paid for this site and I still quite like the way it looks, so I guess I might as well use it.

About that new job - I got out of the IT world and dove right into the deep end of marketing. My new title is “Digital Content Strategist” which is basically a fancy way of saying that my main responsibility is the company’s website. The job is actually a pretty good amount of writing, and an even bigger amount of Wordpress, so it feels right up my alley. I think I can officially say that I’m getting paid to write now, but there’s some technical work in there, too.

Oh, that reminds me! I’m published. I wrote a few articles for the last issue of my alumni magazine (which you can read here) and I’m writing a few more for the next one. They say your first published work is the hardest, or at least I hope they do, so that I can be over the hardest part by now.

Next month, I’m teaming up with my friend Patience Randle to do campnanowrimo.org and I think it’s just the jolt I need. With the new job, the new house, and the side hustle, I’ve missed more writing than I’ve made lately, so it’s time I have a strict goal and a friend to keep me accountable for it.

That’s it for today. No previously unspoken truths, no words of wisdom for you today. Just a life update. Care to tell me about yours?

On Side Hustles

You might have noticed a certain silence around these parts in recent days. Recent days, in this case, are quite a few months. I'm sorry about that. I promised I would blog more and then I went and blogged less, but I'm back and with news.

News about why I've been so quiet.

The short answer is that I've been working on other things. Today, I'm going to tell you a little bit about what that is, but it's going to take some explaining, because I think if it's something you haven't heard about, it might sound a little foreign.

Before you panic, if you feel the need to panic, rest assured that I haven't stopped writing. Daniel and I (of DAM Good Comics fame) are working on something special right now and it's shaping up to be one of the best things I've ever made.

Anyway, back on track.

The best way I can pitch this, I think, is to compare it to something widespread and relatable. So, you ever heard of sports? I'm guessing you have. Somehow, almost anywhere I've ever gone, people know about sports. People follow sports. People watch sports. I'm up to something similar.

Instead of sports though, it's video games. If you haven't heard of it, there's a site called Twitch where people stream things like video games or talk shows or workout coaching or just them living their lives for audiences who can follow, donate, and even subscribe. A lot of people make their living from just streaming video games. It's pretty cool.


For the past 5 months or so, I've been streaming myself playing video games on this site. As of this writing, I'm nearing 400 followers. I've actually made money from people who've enjoyed watching me and wanted to support by donating bits (a currency used only on Twitch that can be purchased or earned through watching ads) or by subscribing.

I haven't talked about it in real life much because I don't know if people would get it. It feels ripe for someone shouting "NERD!" and dismissing it immediately, but there's something sort of magical about it. It's creativity. It's entertainment. It's communication and networking and it's exciting and scary like any good project should be.

So what does this mean for you? Well, nothing, probably. You know something else about me and you can go on about your day. I just thought it was important to tell you where I've been.

If you want, though, there is something some of you could do. I'm not going to post the link to my Twitch channel here because that still feels big and open-ended, but those of you with Amazon Prime are in a unique position to support me.

Those subscriptions I mentioned before? Everyone who pays for Amazon Prime gets a free subscription to a Twitch channel of their choosing every month. If you have it, and you don't use it, I'd love to talk to you about how you can set it up to support my stream.

If you feel like checking it out, let me know and I’ll send you the link.

Whatever "It" Is

I've talked about it before, but I go into each year with a writing goal. Last year, I wanted to prove to myself that if I wanted to, I could write a novel, so I set a goal of 100,000 words. That number seemed unattainable enough that, if I reached it, I'd have to believe that with the right amount of work, I could write a novel.

100,000 terrible words later, I had my goal for this year planned out - this time, I would write a novel worth something. Maybe even a novel worth publishing. Then, 10,000 words into this year's project, I knew I had to throw it away and start over. Last year was about writing anything. This year needed to be about writing well.

Another 2,000 words in, I had to throw it away again. Then again at 500 words. The first sentence over and over again.

Something was nagging at me, telling me that what I was getting onto the page wasn't quite right. With the 10,000 words, I can tell you pretty clearly what it was, or rather what they were. The tone wasn't right, to begin with. I wanted the writing to crackle, the quiet moments as fun as the loud ones because of the delight of the words.

And that's the other thing, too. There were no loud moments. The story lacked inertia. There was no forward push to the story, so once the initial hook of the story was out there, the main character just kind of floundered around for another 7,000 words or so. I could feel it in the act of writing the way I'm sure someone who'd read it could feel it too.

It took writing, scrapping, and starting over many times to realize that I just didn't know what the story was. I have the thing, that one little nugget, that I can use to describe the story to someone who asks what I'm working on, but I didn't have the story of it yet.

I got so used to churning out words last year, in what was supposed to just be an exercise, that I forgot almost everything I had learned about planning a story. I used to notecard meticulously. I had a table I only used for outlining.

I kept trying to build a house without knowing what the final shape of it should be. I'd put up some walls and wonder why they'd sink into the soft earth.

I now need to commit myself, if I want to write something worth something, to planning a story, not because I have to follow it word for word in the actual act of writing, but because if you don't know what you're aiming at, it's pretty much impossible to hit it.

Perchance to Dream

Maybe I’m just not the sort of guy who gets to follow his dream.
— Aiden, Life Sentence

Do you ever worry that your dreams won't come true, like I do? I think it hits me most on the weekends, or in the evenings, when I've got the time on my hands to worry endlessly. 

For the last 10 years of my life, I've known that in some way, I'm meant to write. You have to excuse some of those early years, when I called myself a writer but didn't actually write, but for the better part of a decade, I've put a lot of work, and time and heart into creating things and in the quiet moments when I can't help it, I wonder what I have to show for it.

I guess there are words, nearly endless words, in documents on my hard drives, but what is that really? Is it anything, does it mean anything, if I can't produce something that's worth sharing? And if it doesn't, will I ever write something that means anything?

Would it be better not to dream?

I want to end this post there, to wallow like I feel like wallowing. Maybe I'd get a comment or two of encouragement. My mom would probably text me to ask if I was okay. 

But the truth is, I can't do this for any of you. I can be encouraged by you, inspired by you. I can want your attention and adulation, but that can't be what it's about, not if I'm going to keep going. Not if I hope to will this dream to life.

Until I write that thing that's ready to publish, which I really hope is the novel I'm working on right now, I move the goalposts. I look for success outside of being published. 902 days of writing in a row is a success. 100,000 words, bad as they were, last year is another. 10,000 this year, already thrown away for a new draft, is a third.

Every day I keep dreaming can be a small victory, if I choose to see it. And right now, I'm looking for any little bit of triumph I can find.

March For Their Lives

All over the United States today, people are marching to demand an answer to one question - what is the cost of a gun? The monetary answer is simple: a few hundred, maybe a few thousand dollars. The political answer draws a line between friends, between families, between neighbors. 

None of those are the true cost of a gun.

Students - rightly, heroically - have stood to their feet to say that they know the true cost and that they no longer should be asked to pay it. It is simultaneously an inspiring thing to witness from an age group that is constantly told it doesn’t care about or believe in anything and a damning conviction of anyone who let the problem escalate to this point.

“Children are being murdered” should be the first, last, and only argument that ever needs to be made, although we certainly started losing the thread when we accepted any unnecessary loss of life at any age.

I’m not asking you to give up your guns though. I’m not demanding that someone come to your house and take them. What I’m asking is that, at least for today, at least for one day, you take the opinions that you have about guns and you lay them down. There is a time for battle and this is, quite frankly, not yours.

Now, I know there’s a document floating around that’s a couple hundred years old that says something about rights as it pertains to this topic. Putting aside the concept of historical context (which it’s absolutely foolish to do), I want you to think about what it really says. 

It starts with “A well regulated militia,” and people often try to put the most important stuff at the very beginning. How do we decide who’s a member of one of these militias and who’s responsible for their regulation? Anyway, I’m not sure a militia of any kind is relevant in a country with the largest and most powerful army in the world, but to go down the path of questioning the relevance of any part of this is to start the snowball’s roll down a steep hill.

It’s also worth noting that making something harder to do, like buy a gun, is not infringing from doing it. It’s an inconvenience, but if we’re sticking to the letter of the text, there’s nothing in there that says inconvenience is wrong, so we all should be on board.

Again, that’s just when we put the historical context aside. If we throw that into the mix, we should have some serious questions about why this one was eleven before the one that ended slavery and seventeen before the one that gave women the right to vote. Maybe these men hundreds of years ago did not write a infallible document that took into account every future consequence.

You will be asked to do hard things as an American. Aaron Sorkin once wrote that “America isn’t easy. America is advanced citizenship. You gotta want it bad, ‘cause it’s going to put up a fight.”

Today, I’m asking you to do one of those hard things. Take your opinion that your right to a gun is more important than a child’s right to live and put it away. Lock it in the safe where you keep your gun. You don’t need to defend yourself right now.

There are a bunch of kids (and parents of kids, and supporters of kids, and people who were once kids, and people who are trying to have kids) who plan to march today to say that the cost that they’ve been asked to pay for your rights to possess a weapon is no longer tenable. Let them say it. Let them scream it. Let them demand our government take better care of them because eventually, they are going to be us and maybe if we show them that things can change for the better, that life can be valued above everything that is not life, maybe there will be hope for a better future.

We owe it to them to at least let them try. At the very least, let them try to be able to live their lives until they’re old and they’re asked to make way for a younger generation with demands about how things should be fixed.